The end of your senior’s life can be a complicated time for her, for you, and for other family members. If you’re feeling as if you don’t really know what she wants from this stage of her life, that may make you feel even more at odds with what’s going on.
Do You Know What She Wanted?
For many caregivers, that crucial conversation just never happened. But if your senior is still able to talk to you about what she wants in these last stages of her life, do what you can to have that conversation with her. It’s not an easy conversation to have, but if you have any doubts about what she wants, this allows you to get some of that information.
You Don’t Have to Decide Alone
It feels like you’re making these decisions on your own, but you maybe aren’t as alone as you think. If other family members are willing to participate in these talks, you can work out together what you think your senior would want. It’s also a good idea to talk together about what each of you remember about her expressing wishes even years in the past. That can help you to piece together answers now.
Bereavement Assistance Can Also Help
Bereavement assistance is helpful both after your senior passes away, but also before. Hospice elder care providers can help you to get in touch with bereavement assistance providers in addition to all that they’re doing to help to comfort and care for your senior at this time. Working with bereavement assistance before your elderly family member passes away gives you a chance to start dealing with your feelings and your grief so that you can be there for your senior now.
You Can’t Hurry Your Feelings
You may want to get through your feelings as quickly as possible and that makes sense. But in reality, dealing with your feelings happens at the pace it happens. You can’t rush them along. There’s no reason for you to have to deal with your grief by a certain point, either. You can take your time and deal with everything at your own pace.
No matter how prepared you think you are for your family member’s death, it can still be really difficult to sort through all that needs to be done. Lean on your support network and get help wherever you can, especially from a team of hospice elder care providers.
IF YOU ARE CONSIDERING ELDER CARE IN CHICO, CA, FOR AN AGING LOVED ONE, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT PARTNERS IN CARE TODAY. CALL (530) 885-9948.
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